How to deal with “picky” bosses
It turned out that Zhang Jin was the IT director before, and his minister always paid attention to the big ones, and respected his management style very much.
The current direct vice president Li, however, has no detailed questions about his department management matters, and he is very picky about his management methods. This situation is more frequent, and Zhang Jin is very depressed.
He thinks that President Li doesn’t know much about informatization and keeps asking him for trouble.
Zhang Jin felt that Li was always aiming at himself, and subsequent constant frictions with his boss caused the relationship to be extremely tense.
When Zhang Jin began to hesitate to leave or stay, thinking of Anyi, an old friend with a high emotional quotient, he might be able to help him through the current workplace crisis.
Anyi carefully listened to Zhang Jin’s story about the conflict, asked about the situation in detail, and then helped Zhang Jin analyze it very well: “In fact, you are always a typical perfect personality. People with perfect personality wantEverything is done perfectly, hoping that they or the world will be more perfect. They always reflect on whether they have made mistakes and will correct others’ mistakes in time.
Without correcting others’ mistakes, he will feel that he has not fulfilled his responsibilities.
Lu Anyi looked at Zhang Jin who listened to God and said, “Persons of this personality are always very demanding in all kinds of things in daily management. At the same time, they also want his subordinates to be like him and to be systematic in everything.Thinking, no slight flaws are allowed, especially if you have just been promoted to the head of the IT department, his requirements will be more stringent.
And you are a strength-type person, relying on your own efforts in your work, based on the principle of not trying to trouble the boss, and don’t give the problem to the boss, many problems have their own ways to coordinate and solve, but the results of doing soWill make the boss do not understand the difficulty of their work, or even be despised.
You think you have worked hard and seriously, but you rarely think in reverse and change your mind. You don’t care how your boss evaluates you. You have the mentality of “justice and free heart” and “don’t do bad things”.The mentality is that it is more practical to arrange your work according to the past thinking, so you will inevitably have many contradictions.
Only correct his mind, don’t mind his criticism too much, know that picking is just his habit.
At the same time, it is necessary to constantly analyze the criticisms of the superiors. It really makes sense to follow suit. As for the unreasonable requirements, delaying tactics “cold processing” can be appropriately adopted. After a long delay, he has no energy to entangle these details.
“An Yi teaches old friends as much tricks as possible.
Zhang Jin made deep reflections afterwards. He did not think much about himself. As a subordinate, although he could not communicate with his boss in daily work, he should also handle the relationship with President Li and President Li.The relationship is as it is now, and indeed it has a considerable responsibility.
Although the cause of the conflict is known in theory, his own personality conflicts with that of President Li.
But it’s not that simple.
As the IT Minister, Zhang Jin faced the faults of President Li, how could he not get nervous by him?
Should we continue to “sin” in this glorious post, or just leave?
“搞定”自己的上司 冯欣 东宇房地产公司 综合管理部部长 首先，可以套用一句话：张晋在挑剔的上司那儿获得的“感受和情感是正常的”，一个人如果没让自己成为老板，而靠Working for a living, then in his career, there will always be more than one boss.
Whether he can “get it” with his boss and grow up in criticism is not only a matter of character and personality, but a sign of whether his role and behavior in interpersonal relationships are proper and whether he “can fully understand the organizational structure and have an influenceTo establish internal and external relationships to achieve performance. ”
In the same environment, it is often seen that some people work smoothly and have been repeatedly improved, while others work hard and have high professional standards, but they are always on the spot.
Chrysler President Aikoa summed it up: “They are smarter and harder than me, the only thing missing is communication.”
There is an important rule for successful business people: do first and then do things.
President Roosevelt also attributed the formula for success to “getting along with people”. Zhang Jin’s outstanding performance, excellent performance evaluation results, and promotion to the position of IT Minister by the company, undoubtedly he has become an excellent director.
However, the promotion of the position means that the leadership of the direct reporting job has changed. The leadership style and habits of the new boss may be completely different. If he likes this job and cannot choose his own boss, then he should be open to accepting the new changes.Adjust your behavior and reshape the image of your subordinates.
The leader-member theory tells us that bosses tend to be people with similar attitudes and personalities.
This category of people tends to have more opportunities, better satisfaction and evaluation, and of course their turnover rate is lower.
When Zhang Jin encountered a new boss, this invisible circle already existed, and he should be able to learn the art of getting along with the new boss while taking on greater responsibility and pressure.
Supervisors who understand the perfect personality orientation, social psychology research, believes that the frequency of interactions plays an important role in establishing interpersonal relationships.
Knowing oneself can help others know one another. Don’t always talk about the past. People are very different. The level of professional development can only be higher and higher. Sticking to the thinking of the era of open crotch pants will only make you repeatedly ashamed.
Only by being familiar with the psychological characteristics of the new boss and carrying out normal psychological communication can we learn to stand on the superior’s standpoint to experience his feelings and let the superior stand on your side to understand you.
Learn to tell yourself to respect your boss at all times, and let your boss respect you at all times.
Transposition thinking: As stated in the article, Zhang Jin did not stand in the position of President Li to transposition thinking.
While working principles need to stick to their positions, they also need to think differently.
Zhang Jin can think about it. If I’m President Li, I’m in charge of so many departments, and of course I hope each one is doing a good job.
But in fact, why are the other ones doing very well, and I criticize them less, are they strong or inadequate?
It is very likely that Zhang Jingang took this position. His business is not very familiar, and his work will inevitably have omissions. He has strict requirements and more criticism, which is also for his good.
If Zhang Jin can proceed from this perspective, I believe he will be grateful to President Li, instead of thinking that President Li does not understand information technology, and keep asking him for trouble.Even Mr. Li didn’t know much about information technology, but after all, he has high weight and rich experience, and he is better at guiding work from a level perspective. Therefore, strictness is also normal and is helpful to Zhang Jin.
After all, no one hopes that the department in charge of them is not strong enough, and always gives people a handle.
Learning to relax and work is hard. It is inevitable that you will encounter unpleasant things. No one expects your career to be smooth and unfettered. But when you encounter unpleasant things, just blaming others is not the fundamental way to solve problems.
Outside of work, Zhang Jin must learn to relax his mood and talk to someone. He often invites three or five friends to go hiking and set foot in the mountains and rivers, to talk about the joy of life, and to complain about the work.
In this way, you can avoid the pressure of work, and through the conversation of everyone, you can understand that everyone is not easy, and you can learn the coping skills of others.
It is often said that life is unsatisfactory, and we do n’t hinder thinking about the remaining one or two, and we will find that in fact there are no life-threatening obstacles, why bother with trivial matters?
The author has also encountered Zhang Jin’s confusion, experienced changes in roles, changes in leadership, and actually different leadership styles. Indeed, changing our work in the short term has a certain impact, and it feels that the work is not as smooth as the originalIt takes more time to communicate with you, but in the long run, adapting to different leadership styles is a sign of your own career growth.
Learn to get along with everyone Everyone will get along with all kinds of people in their lifetime, whether they are leaders, subordinates or colleagues, and each person’s work philosophy and methods are also very different.
Therefore, it is important to learn to get along with people, and Zhang Jin in the case seems to fail exactly here.
In fact, Anyi analyzed Zhang Jin very thoroughly. The key lies in whether Zhang Jin can listen to “understand” and whether he is willing to “correct”.
In fact, evasion is not a good choice, it is the best way to face it bravely.
I don’t know if Zhang Jin has considered it. After leaving, I met a new boss in the new company, so what should I do?
Continue to walk away?
I think Zhang Jin should: 1. Adjust himself according to Anyi’s analysis and make himself work hard to adapt to the new leader. Since the leader likes to ask questions in detail, why not report everything?
2. Take advantage of the opportunity to report with leaders, and communicate more with them. Once you understand the leaders’ ideas, you can also exchange your views and opinions with them.
3. If you can’t solve the problem through your own efforts, it is not too late to consider “getting away”.